The trouble that I have with this, Havenrugbyfan88, is that Michael monaghan simply isn't gay. Only last week I was reading about his future plans and he said he was going to retire at the end of this season, but he would still like to remain and settle in England, possibly in some sort of coaching role (like Brett Hodgson before him) and the main reasons he gave for wanting to stay in the UK was because he has an English girlfriend who he is engaged to, and also his Brother Joel will still be here for some years to come.
Therefore it doesn't wash with me, it seems like Hardaker is simply trying to mitigate his offences by saying 'Yes, I did shout some homophobic comments, but its okay because it really wasn't aimed at the ref.'
It has been widely reported that he was shouting abuse at Jamie Child and nobody else, and Jamie Child has also said that he was personally offended by his comments.
Jamie Child has only received a partial apology, more or less along the lines of ' I apologise if somehow the referee was offended, but no abuse was aimed at him.'
That can be seen as a very public and humiliating attempt to 'out' the referee, who needs to be able to get on with the game without having his sexuality brought into question, and who still hasn't had a proper apology but instead is being scrutinised for why he would possibly take offence to gay abuse in the first place.
That is disgraceful on Hardakers behalf and his conduct falls well below the professional standard, as does his attempts to wriggle out of it, you just simply cannot treat the referee like that.